Letting Go Gratitude

Letting Go Gratitude

In Gratitude by Aura Eadon11 Comments

Giving up is flagged early in our life as an undesirable state. There are many ways to deliver a lesson especially to young children and some ways are better than others are. Verbal lessons are always inferior to the powerful combination of a verbal lesson and an example, especially when the example is coming from someone living in a way that makes it clear what the lesson is about. Sometimes it only takes an example and no verbal communication. When it comes to giving up, I believe that the most important lesson is not the consequences of giving up but rather the crucial distinction between giving up and letting go.

The following quote by Danielle Koepke explains beautifully the difference between giving up and letting go:

There is a big difference between giving up and letting go. Giving up means selling yourself short. It means allowing fear and struggle to limit your opportunities and keep you stuck. Letting go means freeing yourself from something that is no longer serving you. It means removing toxic people and belief systems from your life so that you can make room for relationships and ideas that are conducive to your wellbeing and happiness. Giving up reduces your life. Letting go expands it. Giving up is imprisoning. Letting go is liberation. Giving up is self-defeat. Letting go is self-care.

So the next time you make the decision to release something or someone that is stifling your happiness and growth, and a person has the audacity to accuse you of giving up or being weak, remind yourself of the difference. Remind yourself that you don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to live your life in the way that feels right. No one has the authority to tell you who to be or how to live. No one gets to decide what your life should look like or who should be a part of it. No one, but you.Daniell Koepke

Letting Go Gratitude

As I found out recently, knowing something at an intellectual level and experiencing it fully are also two different states. It wasn’t until this week that I truly started appreciating what it means to let go. Let go of fears that don’t belong to me. Let go of distorted visions I hold inside about myself. Let go of the resentment poisoning my life, embracing forgiveness. Let go of those ideas that are simply creating stress while stifling my creativity. Let go of expectations, first the ones I hold about myself.

Like all internal work there is no end-point but rather it’s an ongoing lesson that becomes easier with practice and presence, especially given that over the years we accumulate so many thoughts they become unconscious and drive our lives without us even realising. So this week I’m celebrating and I am grateful for finally experiencing the feeling of letting go, not as a fleeting impression but as a permanent state for some specific thoughts. A few thoughts down, many more to go. And that’s the point where I know that I am not giving up. Not on myself, not on my life, not on my recovery, not on my dreams. Because there is a big difference between giving up and letting go.

Don’t you dare give up. Not tonight. Not tomorrow. Not ever.Rebel Thriver

Letting Go Gratitude

Amazing music that resonates with my ‘never giving up and always letting go’ states: Immediate Music – A Life Extraordinary (Trailerhead: Nu Epiq) [2014]

Thank you so much for visiting and reading. I hope you have an amazing and extraordinary weekend and an even more extraordinary week ahead.

This post is part of the Celebrate the Small Things blog hop hosted by Lexa Cain. Thank you so much for reading. What are you celebrating this week? Let me know by leaving your thoughts in the comments section below.

 

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    1. Author

      Thank you so much, Rose for reading, sharing, commenting, and the blog theme compliment. I am a serial tinkerer when it comes to blog themes, and I tend to end up tinkering too much. I’m happy with this one, though.

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  2. Beautiful!
    Congrats on living the liberating, life-changing process of letting go! I see you’ve come further than I have on this…
    Wish you lots of great results in the process!
    I work on letting go as well, working on breathing exercises – I sit and breath deeply, and try to let go (of everything and anything) every time I breath OUT…. 😀
    May all crappy luggage in life be let go of! 😀

    1. Author

      Not a competition Agnete, just different paths and probably different lessons. Plus I carry a myriad unconscious thought layers that need untangling before letting go so perhaps not so different. I think what makes the difference is that we carry the intent of doing this, intent that is transformed into action that is appropriate for each of us. Letting go has a calming effect and makes the “never give up” sharp and powerful. Thank you so very much for sharing your thoughts and sharing my words. Love and gratitude.

  3. I love the comparison between giving up and letting go too! It’s something I ‘ve thought of before, but never really put into words, so this post gave me a moment to reflect on what they both really mean to me. It is, as the quote says, a difference between imprisonment and freedom. What a huge difference! And I recognize myself as deeply in the midst of a phase of learning to let go even more in life. Letting go, as in surrendering and accepting what truly is. Thank you for this post! Such a great opportunity for me to reflect a bit. Happy new week to you, love! xo

    1. Author

      Thank you Liz, the difference between the two has been haunting me for years. It caused unending toxic shame until I learnt how to distinguish. Still learning to be honest. I hope you have a beautiful week too.

  4. I never really thought about the difference between giving up and letting go. Very insightful post, Aura, and especially for writers as it’s often so tempting to give up. Have a lovely weekend!

    1. Author

      Thanks Lexa, yes I had to face this predicament last December when I realised I had to let go of a lot of past work and focus on specific projects, mostly new. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

  5. This post really hits home this morning for me. There is a difference between giving up and letting go, and even deciphering which is which isn’t always easy. Thanks!

    1. Author

      I have to rely heavily on intuition in order to understand which is which. Intuition and the types of feelings I am having. I suppose it’s different for everyone, others may rely more in a logical process in order to figure the difference. For me it’s a trial and error process most of the time and if I don’t become obsessed with mistakes it’s a productive process. Thanks for stopping by Tonja, have a lovely weekend.

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