Giving up is flagged early in our life as an undesirable state. There are many ways to deliver a lesson especially to young children and some ways are better than others are. Verbal lessons are always inferior to the powerful combination of a verbal lesson and an example, especially when the example is coming from someone living in a way that makes it clear what the lesson is about. Sometimes it only takes an example and no verbal communication. When it comes to giving up, I believe that the most important lesson is not the consequences of giving up but rather the crucial distinction between giving up and letting go.
The following quote by Danielle Koepke explains beautifully the difference between giving up and letting go:
There is a big difference between giving up and letting go. Giving up means selling yourself short. It means allowing fear and struggle to limit your opportunities and keep you stuck. Letting go means freeing yourself from something that is no longer serving you. It means removing toxic people and belief systems from your life so that you can make room for relationships and ideas that are conducive to your wellbeing and happiness. Giving up reduces your life. Letting go expands it. Giving up is imprisoning. Letting go is liberation. Giving up is self-defeat. Letting go is self-care.
So the next time you make the decision to release something or someone that is stifling your happiness and growth, and a person has the audacity to accuse you of giving up or being weak, remind yourself of the difference. Remind yourself that you don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to live your life in the way that feels right. No one has the authority to tell you who to be or how to live. No one gets to decide what your life should look like or who should be a part of it. No one, but you.Daniell Koepke
As I found out recently, knowing something at an intellectual level and experiencing it fully are also two different states. It wasn’t until this week that I truly started appreciating what it means to let go. Let go of fears that don’t belong to me. Let go of distorted visions I hold inside about myself. Let go of the resentment poisoning my life, embracing forgiveness. Let go of those ideas that are simply creating stress while stifling my creativity. Let go of expectations, first the ones I hold about myself.
Like all internal work there is no end-point but rather it’s an ongoing lesson that becomes easier with practice and presence, especially given that over the years we accumulate so many thoughts they become unconscious and drive our lives without us even realising. So this week I’m celebrating and I am grateful for finally experiencing the feeling of letting go, not as a fleeting impression but as a permanent state for some specific thoughts. A few thoughts down, many more to go. And that’s the point where I know that I am not giving up. Not on myself, not on my life, not on my recovery, not on my dreams. Because there is a big difference between giving up and letting go.
Don’t you dare give up. Not tonight. Not tomorrow. Not ever.Rebel Thriver
Amazing music that resonates with my ‘never giving up and always letting go’ states: Immediate Music – A Life Extraordinary (Trailerhead: Nu Epiq) 
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